Have you ever been in a relationship where you were abused? Do you think they were deliberately abusive? Or, were they abusive without realizing what they were doing? Is it possible that someone is abusive and be doing it without realizing the hurt and pain they are causing?
Judging from my share of abusive relationships: that it is possible! True, some are abusive and are well aware of what they are doing but don’t care. They are only thinking of themselves and care little of the harm and the hurt they are causing. That is very sad!
There are also some thatcause pain and hurt without understanding or being aware of the pain and hurt they are causing. (Luke 23:34)
Some of these people might be helped to realize what they are doing, if they are made aware of their abusive actions or speech.
Others might just deny what they are doing and continue in their abusive behavior. They may even become annoyed at our insinuations. I don’t know about these people?
Since the abuse continues, we may just have to keep our distance to avoid being hurt again. They can think what they like or say what they like but we will be giving them no further occasion to
These kinds of relationships are toxic to us. They are slow-poisoning us every time we are near them and provide them with the opportunity or occasion occasion for them to further hurt us.
What is also sad is if we unknowingly might be the abuser. If that is the case, are we ready to listen to someone who brings this issue to our attention? No matter how ridiculous the charge might be: listen. Let us put ourselves in the other person’s shoes and try to see things from their point of view.
If we do that, we might just salvage an important relationship and spare ourselves the loss.
So, let us try to be aware of what we say and do and try to make our relations positive ones, Never would we knowingly or unknowingly be or become an abuser.