If you have read my previous article “From Best Friend to Worst Fiend- How and Why Does That Happen?” April 18, 2012, then you may have wondered what has happened since.
This personal experience has helped to understand how and why God, Jesus, and others have also gone through a betrayal by an intimate friend.
It is a horrible thing when this happens, as you may have also experienced a betrayal or abandonment by an intimate friend or a relationship you once viewed as precious and later went bad.
How did I handle the situation?
When things developed to the point where the paincaused was more than I could handle or deal with, I took action to sever the relationship. Since we are both of the same faith and go to the same place place of worship, we are forced by circumstances to see and even deal with each other on a weekly basis.
I had thought of moving out of the area. However it seemed to be God’s will that I stay where i am. So, for the sake of sanity, I just avoided any unnecessary contact with this person. I was going to help him with a project and I withdrew my involvement.
He is now moving to another country for personal reasons. However in the last few weeks he has made some attempt at some sort of friendship.
Yesterday, he even picked me to work with him on a last project
I was asked by others, who are not even aware of a rift in our friendship, to write a poem about him that would be put on a farewell card and that would be signed by all our mutual friends.
I had written the poem a week ago. It was well accepted and was placed on his farewell card.
While a personal rift had developed, I realized that he still had many good qualities about him and had done much positive work in the community. So, I focused on that when composing the poem.
He was not like Satan or Judas. He had just developed a twisted competitive spirit with me and may not even be aware of the hurt and pain he has caused me. As another friend had once said about him, “He just doesn’t get it.” This was describing his character and may have well been what happened between us.
I’m glad that things ended on a positive note and I wish him well!