Have you noticed the spelling similarity between commend and condemn?
Commend and condemn are two words with very similar spelling and yet belong in two different universes. Of course, both actions are necessary depending on the situation. It’s just that it is better to do one quickly, that is commend and the other one slowly, that is condemn.
We should look for opportunities to commend. When someone does something good, we should quickly commend. The action of giving commendation will encourage the person and it will encourage them to be more giving and to do more for others.
If one feels thattheir efforts and deeds are not appreciated, this will discourage them and will make them feel less inclined to do more things for others. Who likes to do something for an unappreciative person?
So if you notice someone doing something good and positive, tell them that you appreciate that. Let them know that you have noticed their good deed. I’m sure they will be happy to hear that!
Now when it comes to condemning, we don’t want to betoo quick. It is better to give people the benefit of the doubt. After all, we may not have all the facts. It could be just an unfounded suspicion. We might be making an error in judgement. So it is better to get all the facts before we make an accusation and condemn an action or someone, because once an accusation is made it is kind of hard to undo.
So it best to take one’s time before making a condemnation. However, If it is justified then we should have no fear of doing so. Wrong and hurtful actions should not be swept under the rug. They need to be exposed and appropriate measures be meted.
So a word to the wise is: be quick to commend and slow to condemn. That is a good principle for right living and will be most beneficial to our well-being.